"You are not the doer of your life, God is."
"Whatever you feel or happens today, don’t run away from it. Stay with it, by bringing a inner acceptance to what happens outside you or inside you regardless of the circumstances. If you feel irritated, don’t try to escape it, accept it. If you feel lust don’t try to escape it, accept it. If you feel lazy, don’t try to escape it, accept it. What you try to resist persist. Therefore, running away from discomfort, creates more discomfort. It exacerbates it because, you are trying to get rid of it. If you accept it all, as it is, in this moment for now, it dissolves on it’s own."
"If you secretly have a talent or gift, that you doubt, feel ashamed, or afraid to share, you need to explore why. Gifts are not meant to be hoarded, but shared with others. When you don’t share your talents, you’re conflicted, stagnant, and depressed. All talents are divine in that they’re meant to be shared with humanity. When you share your gift, you follow your bliss. When you follow your bliss, you’re happy, abundant, joyful, and love what you do. You’re grateful for allowing the universe to express its messages through you."
"Focus less on how different you are from others, and more on how you can make a difference in their lives."
"I believe all forms of discrimination against any human being are just made up excuses for “specialness,” “exclusivity,” “superiority,” or “separation,” they all have the ego, fear and control in common. If we gave them up, we would be begin to experience more defined union and we’ll be loving are neighbor as ourselves in practice, not just an idea."
"There is no ending to love or beginning. It is ever present, so allow it to thrive and extend from you. Love all imagined obstacles in your way, accept them all and the ocean of love boundlessly overflows."
"There is no part of you that is not worthy to be loved. There isn’t. It is only your beliefs in your fear, shame, that creates unworthiness within you. Your believing in it makes it so. You are the barrier to loving yourself by placing conditions upon yourself to be loved by another on the basis of your fears. These fears are not real, they are just thoughts. Without the belief you are unworthy, who would you be? Now, go be it."
"Love and acceptance is the key to end suffering."
"Love is not a choice. Fear is a choice. You can choose to be in fear, to react or not to react to fear. But you cannot choose to be love. Love is a natural state of being. It comes up within you, if you’re in the presence of another and you say, “I love you.” Which means you recognize that love that permeates through you in the presence of another. It just happens, without choice."
"No one can give you what you feel is missing from your life. That’s your responsibility alone to find what that is within you."
The human mind has over 50,000+ thoughts per day. Could you imagine each of your thoughts finding fault with everything? Each thought has to do with correcting, fixing, attacking, blaming or criticizing others because, the way someone lives is not perfect enough for you. Or, Life is not perfect enough for you. Could you imagine how stressful and time consuming that is?
If you are finding fault with life when there are no problems with anything, you suffer, it is as simple as that. Your thoughts add their commentary on: How long the Starbucks line is, How long the traffic is, How someone shouldn’t be wearing shorts on a 55 degree day outside, How the weather is not warm enough, or How you are not intelligent or beautiful enough?
The point: When you believe your thoughts you suffer and you create suffering for yourself and others as a result.
If you really want to live a “peaceful life,” you have to make “peace” with life. You make peace by stop finding fault with everything your mind thinks is imperfect. Life simply is, without interpretation or commentary. You accept it as it is in the moment. You accept it as it is, because that is the Reality. That is how you stay in the present.
That is how you keep your peace, your sanity, by being aware that your mind has crazy ass thoughts but you, that which is aware of them does not have to believe them. That is your power.
To cultivate that power of Awareness, of Presence or Spaciousness, you have to be still by focusing on your breathing. That brings you back to the Now, to your peace.
When you love life, you love peace, you love the present, you love and accept what happens, because reality is no other way than it appears than here in the Now. By reminding yourself of the “inherent peace, love and happiness” that exist within you, you give us the permission to do the same. That is being that change you want to see in the world.
It’s an act of self-betrayal to say, “Yes” to someone, when you really mean, “No.” Once you do tell someone “Yes,” you begin to resent that person and blame them later for what you said “Yes” to, but really meant “No.”
You chose to do this because, you wanted “approval” from that person. But, deeper than approval, you wanted “love” from them. But, you choose to manipulate them and yourself by lying to receive this love, which always ends in suffering for the both of you.
You cannot receive love or give love by being dishonest towards yourself or another. Your intention voids the love before it is received by another. Which is why you beat yourself up about it after you made the choice.
“When you know better, you live within alignment with Love. When you do not know better, you fall out of alignment with Love and you suffer.”
You cannot blame another for mistakes you have chosen to make. That is avoiding personal responsibility.
By being honest, say Yes when you means Yes, and No when you mean No. That honors yourself, by taking responsibility and you’ll be happy in the long run. That’s the way the Universe is setup.
Realize, you cannot always please everyone so, you might as well honor you truth instead of betraying yourself.
"You don’t have to do or say anything to be beautiful, you just are by simply abiding in your presence."
Is It Flirting or Noticing Beauty?
To be realistic, you have to understand that human beings will stare, glance, and look at each other out of simply just being appreciative of another persons beauty. They don’t just do it to people but, to art, newborn babies, music, watching a sunset or rise, or nature. Just because, a woman/man see another as beautiful in certain way, does not mean the person they are coupled with is not lovable or not loved as at all. It just means they are noticing that another person is beautiful.
If they laugh, or enjoy being in their presence that is not a bad thing. It is only conducive if what they act on infringes on the agreements they setup in their relationship. Your partner was looking at men and women before they met you, they will after. Not because they want them, but because their beautiful.
When you tell a person they can’t do something, you are not loving them, you’re trying to control them because, you fear you will lose the love in your relationship.
If you are insecure, you need to ask yourself, “Can I really lose the love in the relationship or is it my thoughts just projecting it fears onto the relationship?”
In reality, you can never lose the love you have for someone. You love them because, you love them. It does not matter if they love you. Your love for them is not conditional on the fact they love you. You love them because it is a joy, to love being in the presence of them.
Am I saying flirting does not exist?
No, I am saying that just cause flirting appears as that does not mean its flirting. But, consider you might just be overreacting. If your partner is flirting let your concerns and listen to theirs be heard but, don’t tell them what to do or that will exacerbate the issue and they will eventually leave you because you were not accepting them as they are.
Either they will continue to flirt or consciously change their behavior. But, if you are trying to control your relationship is a recipe for disaster.
Consider your partner is teaching you to love without conditions by bringing up your insecurities and fears. That is a lesson to learn.
To truly love, means being free to be who you are without judgment, manipulation, control or fear. That means all the lying games stop when it comes down to real love.
Noticing when you are in fear:
Just know when you’re in fear, you are not loving, when you’re being insecure or controlling, jealous or possessing, you are not loving. That is your opportunity to grow.
"We’re all here in this life to teach each other how to love without conditions. It’s getting rid of your preconceived ideas about love, so real love and come through the both of you."