REMORPHABEING

Remorphabeing is a blog of inspirational writings encourage you in your personal development of self-love, acceptance, happiness and inner peace.

Author : Marcus Thomas

Teacher + Poet + Writer

e: remorphabeing@live.com


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“ Everything in the world, comes from within. It comes from nothing to something, from something back to nothing. When you make yourself dependent on the something you suffer. You suffer because your creativity, freedom, love, abundance, happiness, peace is dependent on a something out in the world as a source that does not exist within you. It comes from scarcity, the idea you are broken and need to be fixed. You spend your life chasing these things, to fix you, to give you what you imagine you do not have, until you realize you’ve had it along. That is an illusion, an imitation. It is not real. Everything you are, you are within. You are love, free, creative, abundant, powerful, happy and peaceful, not because of anything outside you, but, simply because you are. When you know, trust and live that, you prosper. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ No one can do for you what you are capable and must do for your self. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Article: No Two Really Meet, Unless It’s At The Heart



No two people ever meet because, you have your “story” about who I am and I have my “story” about who you are. Neither “story” is the real. It’s just an idea I have of you and you have of me.

This “story” prevents us from seeing who each other really is. The story is the illusion of separation. The beliefs, ideas that you “think” separate you from another person.

I look at you and I make up a story about you, superficially based on your appearance, your ethnicity, your gender, your sexual identity, your spirituality, your religion, your political affiliation, family values, your astrology sign, your taste in culture, your ideas on “marriage, child raising, career aspirations,” etc., as ways to defend, argue, attack, judge, or blame you to reinforce who I “think” you are (story). I project my fears on to you, then make you at fault. I blame you because, I don’t want to take responsibility for my own projections. 

I do my best to be whatever you want me to be to keep you. I do my best to manipulate you, control you, possess you, because, you are my property, not a person. I value your outer beauty, because, I do not take the time, to see what makes you truly beautiful. 

If you do anything that I don’t like, I don’t love you, because, I love you only when we agree with each other, or when one of thinks we are right and the other is wrong. 

This is the insanity of how the ego works. The game is setup this way, and most people play it. Accept, when few individuals choose to free themselves and withdraw their projections to see reality as it is.

No two people ever meet, because they believe they are separate. The “reality” is separation never occurred except for in our own minds, in our own thoughts.

If we sit and look into each one another’s eyes for 1 whole minute with unconditional love and acceptance, we can see the truth. The dream of suffering and drama subsides. We become still. We realize we are love, interconnected, happiness, creativity, abundance, peace, and free and that is all that matters. 

If we can bring love and acceptance to our own wounds, our minds and hearts open and we can meet each other at the heart of love instead of fear.

“ If you love me, and I love you then we commit to not trying to change each other to be what the other wants, and instead just accept one another. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Article: Instead of Being a Fault-Finder, Be A Love-Reminder

The human mind has over 50,000+ thoughts per day. Could you imagine each of your thoughts finding fault with everything? Each thought has to do with correcting, fixing, attacking, blaming or criticizing others because, the way someone lives is not perfect enough for you. Or, Life is not perfect enough for you. Could you imagine how stressful and time consuming that is? 

If you are finding fault with life when there are no problems with anything, you suffer, it is as simple as that. Your thoughts add their commentary on: How long the Starbucks line is, How long the traffic is, How someone shouldn’t be wearing shorts on a 55 degree day outside, How the weather is not warm enough, or How you are not intelligent or beautiful enough? 

The point: When you believe your thoughts you suffer and you create suffering for yourself and others as a result. 

If you really want to live a “peaceful life,” you have to make “peace” with life. You make peace by stop finding fault with everything your mind thinks is imperfect. Life simply is, without interpretation or commentary. You accept it as it is in the moment. You accept it as it is, because that is the Reality. That is how you stay in the present.

That is how you keep your peace, your sanity, by being aware that your mind has crazy ass thoughts but you, that which is aware of them does not have to believe them. That is your power.

To cultivate that power of Awareness, of Presence or Spaciousness, you have to be still by focusing on your breathing. That brings you back to the Now, to your peace. 

When you love life, you love peace, you love the present, you love and accept what happens, because reality is no other way than it appears than here in the Now. By reminding yourself of the “inherent peace, love and happiness” that exist within you, you give us the permission to do the same. That is being that change you want to see in the world.

Article: Self-Betrayal - Saying “Yes” When You Really Mean “No”

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It’s an act of self-betrayal to say, “Yes” to someone, when you really mean, “No.” Once you do tell someone “Yes,” you begin to resent that person and blame them later for what you said “Yes” to, but really meant “No.”

You chose to do this because, you wanted “approval” from that person. But, deeper than approval, you wanted “love” from them. But, you choose to manipulate them and yourself by lying to receive this love, which always ends in suffering for the both of you.

You cannot receive love or give love by being dishonest towards yourself or another. Your intention voids the love before it is received by another. Which is why you beat yourself up about it after you made the choice.

“When you know better, you live within alignment with Love. When you do not know better, you fall out of alignment with Love and you suffer.”

You cannot blame another for mistakes you have chosen to make. That is avoiding personal responsibility.

By being honest, say Yes when you means Yes, and No when you mean No. That honors yourself, by taking responsibility and you’ll be happy in the long run. That’s the way the Universe is setup.

Realize, you cannot always please everyone so, you might as well honor you truth instead of betraying yourself.

“ Sometimes it makes me want to cry, when I look into your eyes and see the God of love permeating through you. Truly, I know that I cannot hurt you, because I love you. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Article: Is It Flirting or Simply Noticing Beauty?

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Is It Flirting or Noticing Beauty?
To be realistic, you have to understand that human beings will stare, glance, and look at each other out of simply just being appreciative of another persons beauty. They don’t just do it to people but, to art, newborn babies, music, watching a sunset or rise, or nature. Just because, a woman/man see another as beautiful in certain way, does not mean the person they are coupled with is not lovable or not loved as at all. It just means they are noticing that another person is beautiful. 

If they laugh, or enjoy being in their presence that is not a bad thing. It is only conducive if what they act on infringes on the agreements they setup in their relationship. Your partner was looking at men and women before they met you, they will after. Not because they want them, but because their beautiful. 

When you tell a person they can’t do something, you are not loving them, you’re trying to control them because, you fear you will lose the love in your relationship. 

If you are insecure, you need to ask yourself, “Can I really lose the love in the relationship or is it my thoughts just projecting it fears onto the relationship?”

In reality, you can never lose the love you have for someone. You love them because, you love them. It does not matter if they love you. Your love for them is not conditional on the fact they love you. You love them because it is a joy, to love being in the presence of them.



Am I saying flirting does not exist? 
No, I am saying that just cause flirting appears as that does not mean its flirting. But, consider you might just be overreacting. If your partner is flirting let your concerns and listen to theirs be heard but, don’t tell them what to do or that will exacerbate the issue and they will eventually leave you because you were not accepting them as they are.

Either they will continue to flirt or consciously change their behavior. But, if you are trying to control your relationship is a recipe for disaster. 

Consider your partner is teaching you to love without conditions by bringing up your insecurities and fears. That is a lesson to learn.

To truly love, means being free to be who you are without judgment, manipulation, control or fear. That means all the lying games stop when it comes down to real love.

Noticing when you are in fear:
Just know when you’re in fear, you are not loving, when you’re being insecure or controlling, jealous or possessing, you are not loving. That is your opportunity to grow.

"We’re all here in this life to teach each other how to love without conditions. It’s getting rid of your preconceived ideas about love, so real love and come through the both of you."

“ God cares less about the words of scripture, than living the words in the flesh. When you do not live what you know, others discover how false you are. It does you no good to just know knowledge.“Application of knowledge” is required, only then does knowledge become lived as “wisdom” or in the flesh. It only does you well, if you live it everyday. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Let Yourself Off The Hook, Embrace Your Inherent Goodness

If you’re know your true worth, you have no reason to feel guilty. You make a mistake you, apologize, decide to correct it, by not making it again. 

That worth is not found in books, beliefs, or given to you by society. It is within you.

If you’re good and feel guilty, you must confuse your worth with the identity of your ego. It comes and goes like the wind. One day you’re a victim, next you’re a villain. That’s the world of duality. The world of projection.

True goodness is not dependent on outward circumstances. It is eternal. Give up the guilt, your goodness returns. You remember it was always there, it was only the thought or belief that kept you from your eternal goodness. 

Keep the guilt, it stays. Keep the belief, you stay in suffering. 

You hold the key to your freedom always. You’ve always been good, always been loved. You’ve always been worthy. That’s your inherent goodness. Let your self off the hook today.

“ You say, "I don’t believe I’m loved,"
as such is an idea;
Give up that belief,
you’ll see it’s always been right here ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Graphical explanation of the 5 natural emotions as outlines by Neale Donald Walsch in ‘Conversations with God.’

Video produced by Jackalope Media

Article: If Peace Resides In You, It Resides In The World by Marcus Thomas

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"What you reject in your self, 
you reject in another
What you embrace in your self,
you embrace in another.”

The world is at peace. There is nothing wrong with it.

We interfere with it every day, which causes all the problems. We interfere with each other, which causes suffering.

I am at peace. There is nothing wrong with me.

When I cease to interfere with life, to think that I am the “doer” of this body, I suffer. When I think react to life, to my thoughts, I suffer, which causes all my problems.

When I just be, become aware of my judgments, thoughts and story, I realize there is nothing to fix about myself and I live this radically, by loving and accepting every part of me I have disowned, hated, judged, been afraid of to embrace my wholeness. 

You are at peace. There is nothing wrong with you.

When I project my judgments, fears and beliefs on you, to think that I know what is best for you, I experience separation. I experience suffering because I interfere with life.

When I step back, and look at you withholding my judgments, projections, and open my heart with love and acceptance for others. I experience who you really are and not the conceptual beliefs I made up about you in my head. I experience the real you, oneness in a shared relationship and wholeness, first in myself, and then in another.

"Hope and fear are both phantoms
that arise from thinking of the self.
When we don’t see the self as self,
what do we have to fear?

See the world as your self.
Have faith in the way things are.
Love the world as your self;
then you can care for all things.”- Tao Te Ching, (Stephen Mitchell Translation) by Lao Tzu

Article: Simply, Forgive Them by Marcus Thomas

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Forgive them, for they know not what they do. 

People do not know they are possessed by their thoughts. Our thoughts possess us, because we believe them and we harm each other as a result.

People do not know they are not their thoughts, emotions and sensations. Therefore, we look for ourselves in changing phenomena, not in the impermanence, that which does not change about ourselves.

People do not know they cannot actually harm each other being that their are not their bodies. 

People do not know that forgiveness is not necessary in the face of unconditional love.

Forgiveness is only necessary if you believe you can be harmed or hurt by another.

Most of us, do not know that they are much greater than who they have been taught to believe.

Most people do not know how to love each other. Therefore, each of us are learning to love ourselves, then love each other. This makes forgiveness necessary.

Most of us do not know that love is inside each of us. We believe it only exists outside of us and we have to “get it.” This is a misconception.

Most of us do not know that nothing which we have cannot be taken away, unless we believe it to be so.

Therefore, Forgiveness serves a purpose, because all we want is to love and be loved.