REMORPHABEING

Remorphabeing is a blog of inspirational writings encourage you in your personal development of self-love, acceptance, happiness and inner peace.

Author : Marcus Thomas

Teacher + Poet + Writer

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Article: The Illusion Of Control vs The Reality, The Peace That Passeth All Understanding

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Illusion of Control:
When you think or believe you can control how life shows appears in reality. You think that by controlling life, you will be safe and secure.

Results of Believing The Illusion: 
You complain, resist, attack, demand, argue, blame or judge when the results are not what you want. You suffer because, you resist and react to life not being the way you want it. You suffer primarily because, you believe your thoughts. 

Examples:

You think you’re going to be with the boy/girl you believe of your dreams forever. Then, poof! You aren’t anymore.

You make a 5-year plan for your life one moment and another, it all falls by the wayside. 

Truth/Reality:
You need to accept can never control reality, or the way life shows up. Never. You can’t control others. You can’t control outer events or circumstances. 

You can control your reaction and resistance to them, through acceptance. Acceptance is the path to freedom.

It doesn’t matter what your thoughts say, because, you don’t take them seriously and therefore, you don’t suffer.

You accept reality the way it shows up in your life, which does not disturb you inner peace. You understand life cannot show up any other way than it is in this moment. This is the peace that passeth all understanding.

You realize everyone is just resisting and reacting to each others thoughts. We’re murdering, raping, stealing, abusing, and not sharing with each other, because, we believe our thoughts. That is why there is no peace in their own minds or in the world. 

So why move from a state of peace to suffering by complaining about how life is supposed to, ought to, can’t be, couldn’t or shouldn’t be, when the fact is, it is no other way than what is happening now?

That will never change. You can’t change the world. You can only change your consciousness, you state of mind, in relationship to the world. When one cell changes, the rest reflect the new state of being. 

The world changes through you, first.

“ When you attack or condemn your brother or sister, you judge and condemn self. When one person calls another person ignorant, it makes them ignorant too for displaying ignorance. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Article: On Racism, Moving Forward Towards Equality

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This country will always have “racism” if it never address the root causes of suffering it has brought countless ethnic peoples of various cultural backgrounds. That addressing is simply an apology of wrongs that has occurred, even if you didn’t do it. Why? Those who did it, did not have the courage to or they are already dead. They didn’t have the heart to meet the brothers and sisters of their own humanness, at the heart of suffering. At the violence, whether it be mental, emotional, physical or institutional being perpetuated. Once, these human groups apologize and forgive each other’s cultural wounds, humanity as a whole can begin working together. The inner healing begins.

You might say, “They’ll never do that.” And, I say, there damned if they do not. Because, avoidance of addressing racism has kept us in prejudice or discrimination and not moving forward. The continuance of avoiding it has not worked. We have to walk through the darkness of prejudice and discrimination in order to become citizens of a democratic society, a more perfect union. 

All problems are spiritual and they have to be addressed accordingly. Passing more laws, exacerbates them problem. Taking away laws, exacerbates the problem. Attack, Shame and Blame exacerbates the problem.

Only love, acceptance, and forgiveness heals wounds. That is our spiritual work of this time, as a individual, as a community and country when it comes to any form of discrimination or prejudice (This includes: Sexism, Genderism, Sexism, “all the fucking isms that deal with inequality.”)

We need to have an open peaceful dialogue.

That dialogue won’t take place with criticizing each other, attacking one another, judging on another, calling each other names, or walking or wishing the problem away. 

We have to sit down, have town hall discussions, listen to one another, with love and acceptance, and allow each other the floor to speak their own minds to be heard in a peaceful, open-minded, open-hearted manner.

Love, acceptance and compassion heals wounds, while anger, fear and resentment just exacerbates the issue.

“ You have to walk through the darkness of your own fears, in order to become a light bearer. You believe the darkness will consume you, which keeps you in avoidance of it. But, until you face your own fears with love and acceptance, you keep your self imprisoned. You always have held to key to your own innocence, your own love, your own happiness, your own freedom from suffering, not anybody else. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ Authenticity is not given to you by others, by your society, or by anything outside you. It is a quality expressed from within, built from the center of who you really are. It is refined through every decision you make. It’s purpose, is to keep you on your own path, not others. It redirects and awakens you, when you are off your path. Teachers can point the way to it, but you have to live it. Its total concern is helping you express your individuality. You came here with it as a newborn, and you leave with it when you die. It cannot be taken away. You move towards authenticity when give up defining yourself to others and just be you. When you begin to express who you really are, you are in alignment with integrity. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Super Soul Sunday - Oprah & Spiritual Teacher Adyashanti

Oprah is joined by spiritual teacher and author Adyashanti to explore the meaning of grace and how it shows up when and where we least expect it. Adyashanti offers practical insights into how and why the thoughts in our heads must not be mistaken for our true identities, and talks about how he believes recognizing this simple truth will awaken us to a new reality.

He and Oprah also discuss his books Falling into Grace: Insights on the End of Suffering and his latest release, Resurrecting Jesus: Embodying the Spirit of a Revolutionary Mystic.

To purchase Falling into Grace: Insights on the End of Suffering 

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To purchase Resurrecting Jesus: Embodying the Spirit of a Revolutionary Mystic

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“ Nothing required to be free. Nothing is required to be love. Nothing is required to be happy. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ Love is not a choice. Fear is a choice. You can choose to be in fear, to react or not to react to fear. But you cannot choose to be love. Love is a natural state of being. It comes up within you, if you’re in the presence of another and you say, “I love you.” Which means you recognize that love that permeates through you in the presence of another. It just happens, without choice. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ While most people run around trying to change each other in their relationships so they can happy, loved and accepted. Your children enjoy loving and accepting each other as kids, as equals, exploring what love really means. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Article: Let Differences Be In A Relationship

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Context: The newlyweds April and Jackson (Grey’s Anatomy TV Show) argument begins at the dinner table after, Doctors Kepner and Avery treat a deaf girl whose parents reject Jackson’s suggestion of a cochlear implant for their daughter.

April supports their choice while Jackson doesn’t understand why if the technology and medicine exists, why not use it for their child. Anyway, when April extrapolates the difference of opinion onto their own situation (suggesting that Jackson substitute prayer or Bible study or faith, for example, for “cochlear implant”), the whole thing blows up in their faces. 

April reiterates that her faith is at the core of who she is. Jackson retorts that her God doesn’t exist. He believes in science, in medicine and in helping people. April’s response is interesting. While she wants Jackson to respect her views (and not merely tolerate them). Jackson is stunned by this (now both of them are offended).

In regards to Jackson and Kepner (Grey’s Anatomy). Kepner, Jackson accepts you and tolerate your beliefs because he loves you. He not with you in spite of your faith. He’s with you because he loves you. You say the man does not have faith in something he can’t see. Because, he has faith in science, in medicine, in helping others. You’re missing the fact he believes in LOVE. You cannot see, taste, touch, smell or hear love. It is like the wind, it comes and goes. But, you can feel it. You can know it intuitively. So Kepner for your information, he does have faith cause he believes in love. If he believes in love, he must believe in God, because God equals love. 

Let your differences exist in your relationship. Why? Because, the reality is, they do and always will. 

You cannot force another person to believe what you want them to believe or to agree with your beliefs. Neither cannot they coerce you to agree with theirs. If you do, you will push them and the love away. You become separate from another because of your need to control them. Your need to be right. Your need for recognition.The ego looks for agreement because, you are so identified with your thoughts, beliefs and perceptions.

It is your need to manipulate them because all you want is to be loved and accepted. But, you do not realize that you will never gain love and acceptance by control, force or manipulation. 

They come from a belief that someone or I am broken and need to be fixed. Or, I do not have this, so I need to try to get this. None of it is true, and none of it will get you love. Because, you cannot get love. You have to have it, then give it, then receive it, then give it again. That is how spirituality works. Love is spiritual. It comes from within, not without. You bring it into the “space” of the relationship and it flourishes. You withdraw your love from the “space” the relationship withers away. It’s that simple. 

If you can accept your own beliefs, why is it another person business for them to accept yours? Or, you to accept theirs? Its not, it is your own responsibility. Ego tries to change their partner to get them to agree with them. Love doesn’t try to change you, it accepts you.

Is it possible for two people can share opposing views without trying to convert another person to their beliefs?

Yes, it’s called listening. Its called loving. It’s called acceptance and tolerance. It’s not about being perfect, its not about being religious, political, feminist, sexist or anything. It’s about loving and accepting another as they are and not trying to change them to agree with you. Love lets differences be.

Article: The Core of Krishnamurti’s Teachings

Written by Krishnamurti in 1980 at the request of his biographer Mary Lutyens.


The core of Krishnamurti’s teaching is contained in the statement he made in 1929 when he said, “Truth is a pathless land”. Man cannot come to it through any organization, through any creed, through any dogma, priest or ritual, not through any philosophical knowledge or psychological technique. He has to find it through the mirror of relationship, through the understanding of the contents of his own mind, through observation and not through intellectual analysis or introspective dissection. 

Man has built in himself images as a fence of security—religious, political, personal. These manifest as symbols, ideas, beliefs. The burden of these images dominates man’s thinking, his relationships, and his daily life. These images are the causes of our problems for they divide man from man. His perception of life is shaped by the concepts already established in his mind. The content of his consciousness is his entire existence. The individuality is the name, the form and superficial culture he acquires from tradition and environment. The uniqueness of man does not lie in the superficial but in complete freedom from the content of his consciousness, which is common to all humanity. So he is not an individual.

Freedom is not a reaction; freedom is not choice. It is man’s pretence that because he has choice he is free. Freedom is pure observation without direction, without fear of punishment and reward. Freedom is without motive; freedom is not at the end of the evolution of man but lies in the first step of his existence. In observation one begins to discover the lack of freedom. Freedom is found in the choiceless awareness of our daily existence and activity.

Thought is time. Thought is born of experience and knowledge, which are inseparable from time and the past. Time is the psychological enemy of man. Our action is based on knowledge and therefore time, so man is always a slave to the past. Thought is ever limited and so we live in constant conflict and struggle. There is no psychological evolution. When man becomes aware of the movement of his own thoughts, he will see the division between the thinker and thought, the observer and the observed, the experiencer and the experience. He will discover that this division is an illusion. Then only is there pure observation which is insight without any shadow of the past or of time. This timeless insight brings about a deep, radical mutation in the mind.

Total negation is the essence of the positive. When there is negation of all those things that thought has brought about psychologically, only then is there love, which is compassion and intelligence.

“ No one can give you what you feel is missing from your life. That’s your responsibility alone to find what that is within you. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ Everything in the world, comes from within. It comes from nothing to something, from something back to nothing. When you make yourself dependent on the something you suffer. You suffer because your creativity, freedom, love, abundance, happiness, peace is dependent on a something out in the world as a source that does not exist within you. It comes from scarcity, the idea you are broken and need to be fixed. You spend your life chasing these things, to fix you, to give you what you imagine you do not have, until you realize you’ve had it along. That is an illusion, an imitation. It is not real. Everything you are, you are within. You are love, free, creative, abundant, powerful, happy and peaceful, not because of anything outside you, but, simply because you are. When you know, trust and live that, you prosper. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ Where ever you are in the moment, that is your life’s purpose. Why? Because, you are there. That is the reality. If you were meant to be somewhere other than where you are, you would be there. But, since, you are not. Your purpose is to be where you are in this moment. Sit with that, you will realize, everything you think, say and do is your life’s purpose. That journey is now here. ”

—    Marcus Thomas