REMORPHABEING

Remorphabeing is a blog of inspirational writings encourage you in your personal development of self-love, acceptance, happiness and inner peace.

Author : Marcus Thomas

Teacher + Poet + Writer

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Article: Let Differences Be In A Relationship

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Context: The newlyweds April and Jackson (Grey’s Anatomy TV Show) argument begins at the dinner table after, Doctors Kepner and Avery treat a deaf girl whose parents reject Jackson’s suggestion of a cochlear implant for their daughter.

April supports their choice while Jackson doesn’t understand why if the technology and medicine exists, why not use it for their child. Anyway, when April extrapolates the difference of opinion onto their own situation (suggesting that Jackson substitute prayer or Bible study or faith, for example, for “cochlear implant”), the whole thing blows up in their faces. 

April reiterates that her faith is at the core of who she is. Jackson retorts that her God doesn’t exist. He believes in science, in medicine and in helping people. April’s response is interesting. While she wants Jackson to respect her views (and not merely tolerate them). Jackson is stunned by this (now both of them are offended).

In regards to Jackson and Kepner (Grey’s Anatomy). Kepner, Jackson accepts you and tolerate your beliefs because he loves you. He not with you in spite of your faith. He’s with you because he loves you. You say the man does not have faith in something he can’t see. Because, he has faith in science, in medicine, in helping others. You’re missing the fact he believes in LOVE. You cannot see, taste, touch, smell or hear love. It is like the wind, it comes and goes. But, you can feel it. You can know it intuitively. So Kepner for your information, he does have faith cause he believes in love. If he believes in love, he must believe in God, because God equals love. 

Let your differences exist in your relationship. Why? Because, the reality is, they do and always will. 

You cannot force another person to believe what you want them to believe or to agree with your beliefs. Neither cannot they coerce you to agree with theirs. If you do, you will push them and the love away. You become separate from another because of your need to control them. Your need to be right. Your need for recognition.The ego looks for agreement because, you are so identified with your thoughts, beliefs and perceptions.

It is your need to manipulate them because all you want is to be loved and accepted. But, you do not realize that you will never gain love and acceptance by control, force or manipulation. 

They come from a belief that someone or I am broken and need to be fixed. Or, I do not have this, so I need to try to get this. None of it is true, and none of it will get you love. Because, you cannot get love. You have to have it, then give it, then receive it, then give it again. That is how spirituality works. Love is spiritual. It comes from within, not without. You bring it into the “space” of the relationship and it flourishes. You withdraw your love from the “space” the relationship withers away. It’s that simple. 

If you can accept your own beliefs, why is it another person business for them to accept yours? Or, you to accept theirs? Its not, it is your own responsibility. Ego tries to change their partner to get them to agree with them. Love doesn’t try to change you, it accepts you.

Is it possible for two people can share opposing views without trying to convert another person to their beliefs?

Yes, it’s called listening. Its called loving. It’s called acceptance and tolerance. It’s not about being perfect, its not about being religious, political, feminist, sexist or anything. It’s about loving and accepting another as they are and not trying to change them to agree with you. Love lets differences be.

Article: The Core of Krishnamurti’s Teachings

Written by Krishnamurti in 1980 at the request of his biographer Mary Lutyens.


The core of Krishnamurti’s teaching is contained in the statement he made in 1929 when he said, “Truth is a pathless land”. Man cannot come to it through any organization, through any creed, through any dogma, priest or ritual, not through any philosophical knowledge or psychological technique. He has to find it through the mirror of relationship, through the understanding of the contents of his own mind, through observation and not through intellectual analysis or introspective dissection. 

Man has built in himself images as a fence of security—religious, political, personal. These manifest as symbols, ideas, beliefs. The burden of these images dominates man’s thinking, his relationships, and his daily life. These images are the causes of our problems for they divide man from man. His perception of life is shaped by the concepts already established in his mind. The content of his consciousness is his entire existence. The individuality is the name, the form and superficial culture he acquires from tradition and environment. The uniqueness of man does not lie in the superficial but in complete freedom from the content of his consciousness, which is common to all humanity. So he is not an individual.

Freedom is not a reaction; freedom is not choice. It is man’s pretence that because he has choice he is free. Freedom is pure observation without direction, without fear of punishment and reward. Freedom is without motive; freedom is not at the end of the evolution of man but lies in the first step of his existence. In observation one begins to discover the lack of freedom. Freedom is found in the choiceless awareness of our daily existence and activity.

Thought is time. Thought is born of experience and knowledge, which are inseparable from time and the past. Time is the psychological enemy of man. Our action is based on knowledge and therefore time, so man is always a slave to the past. Thought is ever limited and so we live in constant conflict and struggle. There is no psychological evolution. When man becomes aware of the movement of his own thoughts, he will see the division between the thinker and thought, the observer and the observed, the experiencer and the experience. He will discover that this division is an illusion. Then only is there pure observation which is insight without any shadow of the past or of time. This timeless insight brings about a deep, radical mutation in the mind.

Total negation is the essence of the positive. When there is negation of all those things that thought has brought about psychologically, only then is there love, which is compassion and intelligence.

“ No one can give you what you feel is missing from your life. That’s your responsibility alone to find what that is within you. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ Everything in the world, comes from within. It comes from nothing to something, from something back to nothing. When you make yourself dependent on the something you suffer. You suffer because your creativity, freedom, love, abundance, happiness, peace is dependent on a something out in the world as a source that does not exist within you. It comes from scarcity, the idea you are broken and need to be fixed. You spend your life chasing these things, to fix you, to give you what you imagine you do not have, until you realize you’ve had it along. That is an illusion, an imitation. It is not real. Everything you are, you are within. You are love, free, creative, abundant, powerful, happy and peaceful, not because of anything outside you, but, simply because you are. When you know, trust and live that, you prosper. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ Where ever you are in the moment, that is your life’s purpose. Why? Because, you are there. That is the reality. If you were meant to be somewhere other than where you are, you would be there. But, since, you are not. Your purpose is to be where you are in this moment. Sit with that, you will realize, everything you think, say and do is your life’s purpose. That journey is now here. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ No one can do for you what you are capable and must do for your self. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Article: No Two Really Meet, Unless It’s At The Heart



No two people ever meet because, you have your “story” about who I am and I have my “story” about who you are. Neither “story” is the real. It’s just an idea I have of you and you have of me.

This “story” prevents us from seeing who each other really is. The story is the illusion of separation. The beliefs, ideas that you “think” separate you from another person.

I look at you and I make up a story about you, superficially based on your appearance, your ethnicity, your gender, your sexual identity, your spirituality, your religion, your political affiliation, family values, your astrology sign, your taste in culture, your ideas on “marriage, child raising, career aspirations,” etc., as ways to defend, argue, attack, judge, or blame you to reinforce who I “think” you are (story). I project my fears on to you, then make you at fault. I blame you because, I don’t want to take responsibility for my own projections. 

I do my best to be whatever you want me to be to keep you. I do my best to manipulate you, control you, possess you, because, you are my property, not a person. I value your outer beauty, because, I do not take the time, to see what makes you truly beautiful. 

If you do anything that I don’t like, I don’t love you, because, I love you only when we agree with each other, or when one of thinks we are right and the other is wrong. 

This is the insanity of how the ego works. The game is setup this way, and most people play it. Accept, when few individuals choose to free themselves and withdraw their projections to see reality as it is.

No two people ever meet, because they believe they are separate. The “reality” is separation never occurred except for in our own minds, in our own thoughts.

If we sit and look into each one another’s eyes for 1 whole minute with unconditional love and acceptance, we can see the truth. The dream of suffering and drama subsides. We become still. We realize we are love, interconnected, happiness, creativity, abundance, peace, and free and that is all that matters. 

If we can bring love and acceptance to our own wounds, our minds and hearts open and we can meet each other at the heart of love instead of fear.

“ If you love me, and I love you then we commit to not trying to change each other to be what the other wants, and instead just accept one another. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

Laura Day talks about Intution

Bestselling author Laura Day has spent three decades helping individuals, organizations, and companies use their innate intuitive abilities to create profound changes in their lives.

Her work has helped demystify intuition and demonstrate its practical, verifiable uses in the fields of business, science, medicine and personal growth.

She has trained thousands of people to use their brains and perceptions in effective ways including scientists, celebrities, business executives, and other professionals to realize their goals while creating supportive and inspiring communities.

Laura has been featured in many publications including Newsweek, New York Magazine, The Independent, Bottom Line, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, and People magazines.

She speaks regularly both here and abroad, and has appeared on numerous shows including CNN, Fox News, Good Morning America, The View, and The Oprah Winfrey Show.

Article: Instead of Being a Fault-Finder, Be A Love-Reminder

The human mind has over 50,000+ thoughts per day. Could you imagine each of your thoughts finding fault with everything? Each thought has to do with correcting, fixing, attacking, blaming or criticizing others because, the way someone lives is not perfect enough for you. Or, Life is not perfect enough for you. Could you imagine how stressful and time consuming that is? 

If you are finding fault with life when there are no problems with anything, you suffer, it is as simple as that. Your thoughts add their commentary on: How long the Starbucks line is, How long the traffic is, How someone shouldn’t be wearing shorts on a 55 degree day outside, How the weather is not warm enough, or How you are not intelligent or beautiful enough? 

The point: When you believe your thoughts you suffer and you create suffering for yourself and others as a result. 

If you really want to live a “peaceful life,” you have to make “peace” with life. You make peace by stop finding fault with everything your mind thinks is imperfect. Life simply is, without interpretation or commentary. You accept it as it is in the moment. You accept it as it is, because that is the Reality. That is how you stay in the present.

That is how you keep your peace, your sanity, by being aware that your mind has crazy ass thoughts but you, that which is aware of them does not have to believe them. That is your power.

To cultivate that power of Awareness, of Presence or Spaciousness, you have to be still by focusing on your breathing. That brings you back to the Now, to your peace. 

When you love life, you love peace, you love the present, you love and accept what happens, because reality is no other way than it appears than here in the Now. By reminding yourself of the “inherent peace, love and happiness” that exist within you, you give us the permission to do the same. That is being that change you want to see in the world.

“ When you give up your thoughts about being not good enough, you realize you are always enough by being good. You reminded of your essential goodness. ”

—    Marcus Thomas

“ Hurt feelings or discomfort of any kind cannot be caused by another person. No one outside me can hurt me. That’s not a possibility. It’s only when I believe a stressful thought that “I” get hurt. And I’m the one who is hurting me by believing what I think. This is very good news, because it means that I don’t have to get someone to stop hurting me. I’m the one who can stop hurting me. It’s within my power. ”

—    Byron Katie

Article: Self-Betrayal - Saying “Yes” When You Really Mean “No”

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It’s an act of self-betrayal to say, “Yes” to someone, when you really mean, “No.” Once you do tell someone “Yes,” you begin to resent that person and blame them later for what you said “Yes” to, but really meant “No.”

You chose to do this because, you wanted “approval” from that person. But, deeper than approval, you wanted “love” from them. But, you choose to manipulate them and yourself by lying to receive this love, which always ends in suffering for the both of you.

You cannot receive love or give love by being dishonest towards yourself or another. Your intention voids the love before it is received by another. Which is why you beat yourself up about it after you made the choice.

“When you know better, you live within alignment with Love. When you do not know better, you fall out of alignment with Love and you suffer.”

You cannot blame another for mistakes you have chosen to make. That is avoiding personal responsibility.

By being honest, say Yes when you means Yes, and No when you mean No. That honors yourself, by taking responsibility and you’ll be happy in the long run. That’s the way the Universe is setup.

Realize, you cannot always please everyone so, you might as well honor you truth instead of betraying yourself.

“ You don’t have to do or say anything to be beautiful, you just are by simply abiding in your presence. ”

—    Marcus Thomas