This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complex beliefs. Only love, unconditional simplicity of love towards one another. Our hearts is the source of that love; the action is kindness.
Awakening from abuse means rejecting the illusion that you are not lovable, and are worthy to be loved as you are. You demonstrate love by giving it first, unconditionally to yourself. And, as you do, you attract others into your life who are able to love you without conditions.
Excerpt: From Love without Conditions by Paul Ferrini
The incredible book from Jesus calling us to awaken to our own Christhood. Rarely has any book conveyed the teachings of the master in such a simple but profound manner. This book will help you to bring your understanding from the head to the heart so that you can model the teachings of love and forgiveness in your daily life.
LOVE WITHOUT CONDITIONS
You have learned conditional love from people whose love for you was compromised by their own guilt and fear. These have been your role models. You need not be ashamed of this. You need only be aware of it as a fact.
From the time you were an infant, you were conditioned to value yourself only when people responded positively to you. You learned that your self-worth was established externally. That was the fundamental error, which has perpetuated itself through out your life.
Your parents’ experience was no different from yours, nor was your children’s experience. All of you need to heal from the same wounds. All trespasses/violations must be made conscious and the emotions attached to them must be released. This is the way that all wounded beings move from the experience of conditional love to the experience of love without conditions.
In the process of healing, you learn to give yourself the unconditional love you never received from your biological parents. And in this process you are “born again,” and reparented, not by other authority figures, but by the Source of Love inside yourself.
Learning to give love to the wounded person within begins to reverse your belief that your self worth must be based on how others respond to you. Slowly you retrain yourself to value yourself as you are, here and now, without conditions. No one else can do this for you. People can assist and encourage, but no one can teach you how to love yourself. That is the work of each individual soul.
Each soul comes into physical experience intent to grapple with these issues of self-worth. However, very early on in the soul’s sojourn here conditions are placed on its natural ability to love and include others in its experience.
Reversing these conditions is essential. If the soul leaves the physical world believing that it is the victim of its experience here, it will be drawn back again to unlearn that belief. However, if the soul awakens to the truth that its worth is not dependent on anything or anyone outside its mind or experience, it will establish itself in the source of Love and awaken from the dream of abuse.
Awakening from abuse means rejecting the illusion that you are not lovable as you are. You demonstrate love by giving it unconditionally to yourself. And, as you do, you attract others into your life who are able to love you without conditions.
Your attempt to find love outside yourself always fails, because you cannot receive from another something you haven’t given to yourself. When you withhold love from yourself, you attract others into your life who are doing the same thing.
The experience of unconditional love begins in your heart, not in someone else’s. Don’t make your ability to love yourself conditional on someone else’s ability to love you. Don’t place your faith in the conditions that surround love or in the form in which it presents itself. For these are impermanent and subject to the vicissitudes of every day life.
Real love does not change. It exists independently of the form through which it expresses. The source of this eternal, omnipresent, formless Love is within you. This is where your faith must be placed, for this Love is as certain as anything you will ever know. And once It is firmly established in your heart, you will never need to look for happiness outside of yourself.
People will come and go in your life. Some people will treat you well. Others will treat you unkindly. You will accept the love that is there and see lack of love for what it is, a cry for help from one who is hurting. You will encourage others to find the Source of love within as you did, knowing fully that you cannot fix their little problems. The tragedy of their lives can only be addressed by their willingness to look within their own hearts and minds.
One who loves without conditions places no limits on his freedom nor on anyone else’s. He does not try to keep love, for to try to keep it is to lose it.
Love is a gift that must constantly be given as it is asked for in each situation. And the giver always knows when and to whom the gift is to be given.
There is nothing complicated about the act of love. It only becomes complicated when one starts to withhold love, and then it ceases to be love that one offers.
One who loves himself is not afraid to be alone. For being alone is an opportunity to love and accept himself ever more deeply. If his lover rejects him, does he feel unworthy? Does he pity himself and withdraw from the world, or bury himself in the search for a replacement? NO. He simply continues breathing and extending his love at each step of his experience.
One who loves himself unconditionally does not love in degrees or with strings attached. He does not search for someone special to love. He loves everyone who stands before him. One person is no more worthy or unworthy of his love than another. This is the kind of love that is being born in you now, my brother and sister. This is the kind of love that I offer you and that I ask you to extend to others.
It is very clear. You cannot misunderstand what I am saying to you. Love can only exist between equals. Love can only exist between beings who have learned to love and value themselves internally.
Love takes no hostages. It makes no bargains. It is not compromised by fear. Indeed, where love is present, fear with all its myriad conditions cannot be.
I encourage you to be honest, my friend. What you know of love is not the kind of love I am describing. The kind of love I am describing is absolutely terrifying to you!
Why is this? Because the experience of Real Love ends your experience of the conditional world. When you experience It, you no longer feel separate from others. You lose every aspect of your identity that pushes others away. You open to a larger reality that you create with others through mutual trust. Judgment falls away and acceptance rules.
“I’m not afraid of that,” you say. But consider it please. Be honest with yourself and with me. You ARE afraid of that, because it ends this dream and the only way your ego knows to end the dream is to die. So please recognize your fear of love, your fear of death, your fear of annihilation.
I have said “lest you die and be born again you shall not enter the kingdom of heaven.” When I said this I was not talking about reincarnation. I was talking about the death of the ego, the death of all beliefs that separate you from others. I was talking about the end of judgment.
What dies is not you. What dies is everything that you thought you were. Every judgment you ever made about yourself or anyone else. That is what dies. And what is born again is full of light and clarity. It is the Christ that has eternal life, in you and in me.
I tell you, my brother and sister, your resurrection is at hand. And you are afraid of it! You cannot fool me. I see you trembling, on your knees, looking up at the cross where you will soon be lifted up to pay for your sinful thoughts and acts. Do not deny your fear or I will not be able to help you.
What dies on the cross is not you. You are not the body. You are not your fearful thoughts. All this can and will die. If not now, it will happen later. You cannot avoid the death of the ego. You cannot avoid the death of the body. But these are not necessarily the same. Do not make the mistake of believing that your ego dies when your body does, or that your body dies when your ego does.
Your ego dies when you no longer have use for it. Until then, it will not be taken from you. You can hold onto your ego almost forever, but you will not do this. For this is hell, and you will not want to live in hell forever. There will come a time when the pain will be overwhelming. There will come a time when you will call out to me “Jesus. Please help me. I am ready to let go.” That time comes for every being, I assure you.
Until then, all you can do is walk through your fears. Acknowledge every fear you have and turn each one over to me. “Jesus, I am afraid to die….Jesus, I am afraid of your love….Jesus, I am afraid that God will abandon me.” Let your fears come up and turn them over. That will quicken your awakening. That will take you directly to your core issues, to the fear beyond all your fears. Rest assured, when you come to that place, I will stand beside you.
Gentle brother and sister, I ask only for your trust. Give it to me and we shall walk together out of this place of shadows. I cannot protect you from facing your fears, but I can take your hand as you do so. Rest easy. The outcome of your journey is guaranteed. Where I am now, you shall also be. And then you will know with absolute certainty that love is who you are. It has neither been born in you nor has it died in you. It is inseparable from you. It is your only identity.
Love this video by Cleveland Clinic.
If you could stand in someone else’s shoes … hear what they hear. See what they see. Feel what they feel. Would you treat them differently?
As we explore the nature of our gift, our goal is to move toward this kind of giving: cheerful giving that flows gently and easily, kingly giving that flows surely from who we are. As we encounter the questions—Who are we ? What do we love ?—the gift we bring will be easy, because our gift naturally emerges from who we are. The offering we bring is ourselves, just as we are. Our gift is our true nature. There can be no greater gift than this.
The thing you fear most doing is usually the most thing you need to do in order to fulfill your destiny or life purpose. Does your values align with your career? Who would you love to help most in your career? What steps can you take today towards being on purpose with your career/education?
Healing has nothing to do with fixing, or perfecting yourself to be accepted by others. Healing has to do with you acknowledging the most secretive, repressed feelings about yourself, allowing them to overflow and release so you can return to love. Ask anyone who cries how they feel after, they will tell you, peace. That is where you can go, in this moment.
If you’re dating someone and they demonstrate unloving behavior, you can decide who you want to be in relationship to that person. If they are yelling at you, remain calm, if they are abusive leave. You know what is best, what is love and not love. They are teaching you who they are and you must honor that choice, do not try to change them, change yourself.
Whenever you are self-conscious you are simply showing that you are not conscious of the self at all. You don’t know who you are. If you had known, then there would have been no problem – then you are not seeking opinions. Then you are not worried what others say about you – it is irrelevant!” – Osho
You are perfect and whole just the way you are, as you unfold in the process of this moment.
To treat everyone the same, as you treat yourself, without favorites is loving. For each of us is equal in the eyes of love.
Article: Overcoming The Fear Of Voicing My Own Inner Power by Marcus Thomas
“Projection makes perception. The world you see is what you gave it, nothing more than that. But though it is no more than that, it is not less. Therefore, to you it is important. It is the witness to your state of mind, the outside picture of an inward condition. As a man thinketh, so does he perceive. Therefore, seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world. Perception is a result and not a cause.” - A Course In Miracles
As a child, I observed that my mother most of the time spoke loud, with emotions at times that appeared angry. When I was around, I took upon the fears: I should not talk back to her and keep quiet. That it was my fault that she spoke they way she did. That the way she spoke hurt me, as a result.
Growing up she always said, don’t be afraid to speak you mind, about anything. If you need to ask or say something to someone say it, or it will never be known or heard. I never followed that advice in my youth, because, although she stated that sincerely, it didn’t resonate with what I was feeling, being hurt by how she spoke.
In reality, none of my fears and hurt by how she talked to me at times were true. They were all projections of my fears of the way I perceived my mother, but not how it really is. Meaning, my mother talked with fearlessness because, she has been that way all of her life as I known her. She speaks with emotion because, that just how she is. What I made up about that was the problem that created the fears and hurt.
So, I forgave myself for judging how she spoke to me and others as being hurtful or wrong and accepted the fact that she as a woman has the right to speak the way she desires, because she is just being herself. She maybe was loud, but, she did not mean to intentionally hurt me. She spoke with fearlessness, but she did not intend for me to fear her. She only intended for me to love her the way she is, in her essence as a woman. Now, I can respect that and honor that as the child she brought into this world.
God’s intention was maybe to learn that to be yourself, you have to be unafraid to speak your mind, not be judgmental for what you say or how you say it towards someone else. It is okay for me to express emotion, I am human, just like anyone else. It is my personal responsibility to discern or determine whether something has meaning or not. I give it meaning by taking something personal, make it a fear, and use that fear as projection to not be my true authentic Self, that is divine love at it core.
Take the time to examine your own beliefs, fears, perceptions and how you have created your life. You may see changes you need to make. But you have to acknowledge and take responsiblity for first. That happens with witnessing your perceptions, forgiveness and then making a new choice, to create new life for your self.
Article: Steps to begin “Changing Your Life!” by Marcus Thomas
“Trying to change the external events and circumstances of your life situation without addressing the causes “your internal beliefs and attitudes” is a recipe for disaster.” - Marcus Thomas
If you want to change the outer circumstances of your life, you must begin to look at the contents of your own mind. Examine your beliefs about yourself and others, make new choices and take action making those new adjustments to your life. Here are some questions to get you started?
- What meaning are you giving to the situation that presents itself?
- Are you suffering because of what happened or because of your interpretation of it?
- Are you living your life always reacting to life situations and events from a victim point of view? If so, when and how do you react?
- How does it serve you to react to the life situation/circumstance in this behavioral/habitual way?
- How is it not serving you?
- Who would you be with out this situation or circumstance?
- How can you see this differently? Name one thing you can do, right now, to change the way you see this situation/circumstance/event?
Here are some steps to take action towards Changing You Life:
2. Understand why you feel that way towards your self and others.
3. Stop the projection of that fear(s).
4. Realize it was not the fear(s) you desired, only love.
5. Acknowledge that what you are feeling is there, so it can be released not repressed.
6. Release your fear(s): stereotyping, expectations, judgement, guilt, blame, attack or shame that you feel towards yourself or others.
7. Accept yourself as you are vulnerable, in this moment, as those feelings are being released by go through them to get to the inner peace.
8. Be willing to learn, share and have compassion for yourself/others.
9. Be your own authority for your life, because you are, accept that power.
10. Accept life’s lessons as opportunities for personal growth and evolution to make a different choices.
11. See the reality of each situation as it is, not as what you think it “should/ought” to be.
12. Keep an open heart to allow life to show up as it is, which is the perfection.
Poem: Father/Mother God by Marcus Thomas
Father, you asked me to teach
so I teach those who listen
You asked me to learn
so I learn from those who teach
You asked me to love
so I love those who I share this life with
You asked me to give up my fearful perceptions
so I surrendered my fears
You asked me to see my judgements
so I opened my awareness
You asked me to be,
so I Am at peace in this moment
You asked me to serve,
so I remind them of their “Christ” self
You asked me to follow,
so I humbled myself
You asked me to lead,
so I lead
You asked me to feel,
so I accepted my emotions
You asked me to write,
so I listen to your voice, as it speaks through me
You asked me to rejoice
so I am thankful for each breath
You asked me to come home,
daily I return to both of you in stillness